wolfbearjc I was pleasantly surprised about this movie. It was not full of gay stereotypes and clichés, in fact at times countered them, and yet I was not feeling sorry for the plight of love lorn gay men. Simply,it was about the struggles of relationships, both gay and straight, and the musings: if you did the right thing on the date, if you said or acted in an off putting manner. It addressed the issues of lack of communication and then brutal honesty, misunderstandings on not being able to commit, fear to communicate honestly of what is expected and needed out of relationship. The movie portrays the hard road of getting to know if you have the chemistry, friendship, sex appeal,sex, etc that all can make or break the fragile act of getting to know another. The acting was amazing. The camera angles captured the expressions of all the characters and their emotions of angst, anger, fear, joy, relief, trust, revelation. In the opening scenes of a first date the fear in the eyes of one of the characters was visceral. The use of colors; rust browns and blues, in clothing, sets, in various hues and exposures contributed to beauty and intimacy. The use of apartment walls and windows to follow the characters was neat and creative. So this isn't any longer, I just love the actors, the story, and camera work. It made it to my very picky "own" movie library. It is one of the best romantic comedies I have watched.

ProGuy7360 Then I thought about this movie. Here's what I liked: two men can be openly gay and live perfectly normal and happy lives without being gay bashed like in every other movie ever made about gay men (the only time one gets beaten up, well sort of, is Tom in the bathroom after the AA meeting); gay men don't have to flame or act like women, because they aren't, they are men and happen to like other men; gay men live lives not so different than straight people, with ups and downs, romantically and otherwise; and the movie didn't have the perfectly clichéd ending most movies have in this genre, that love wins out. Sure, in the end they settled their differences, they talked about their feelings and broke down boundaries. They kissed in the end, they danced, and they got together, but they weren't what either wanted, they were what they needed. They didn't get along because they didn't want to, then they got along because they wanted to, in spite of their differences, not in ignorance, but because they acknowledged their own and each others faults to find each other. Ninety-nine percent of people, gay or straight, go out looking for a Prince Charming or Damsel in Distress, which they will never find. Someone once said to me "people should be patient, because when the right person comes along, they'll fall right in your lap." That's kind of what happened here, that both Tom and Eli had preconceived notions about love and their perfect match, and they discovered it didn't matter what they wanted before, because they found maybe what they needed, and discovered the perfect person is a myth, because no one is perfect, and we'll never find what we dream of. We find what we need, and we fall into each others laps. And the filmmakers never said it would work out, but if it did it would be great, if not we know that whatever happens, things would turn out okay. All this, and I haven't even brought up the psychological issues of the characters, particularly Tom, that though not thoroughly explored, are realistic and thought provoking. And what a way to think, that maybe we can be happy if we're not married to our dream man/woman, in the house with the white picket fence, but perfectly happy with friends, family, and the things in life that can be just as important as love.More importantly, I found that this movie was really realistic in portraying gay men. Most movies show the flamers, just one facet of gay society. The fact is gay men and women are all around us, working regular jobs. They are normal people, just like you, and they don't have to act different or be different because they aren't different. Not in any way that's important anyway. So I raise my glass to Tom and Eli, and say accordingly I thought this movie was excellent, and I give it a rating of ten stars. Rock on! PS-- Not sure if there are any spoilers here, but thought I'd check the box anyway, just in case.

wsgiorda This movie gets an "excellent" rating from me because there is attention paid to real character development -- great screenplay. Equal attention has been paid to the characters themselves by actors who understand what they're talking about, and who convey that understanding believably -- the honesty is refreshing. One cannot know the extent to which the director was very detailed in getting the performances that she wanted or whether she fundamentally trusted her actors' intelligence to come through; with this cast and with this screenplay, I'd bet the latter. One so wishes for more movies that treat these themes as intelligently and as engagingly as this one does. One grows so weary of wading through movies with cardboard characters, actors, dialogue, and situations. This movie, though, was a pleasure. My thanks to one and all for having given it.

faviv I have seen what has been written before (that terrible review...), and I feel the need to say that All Over the Guy is not a terrible movie. It's actually very sweet and gentle in portraying two gay characters with issues. Not that it's a wonderful film but I didn't find it disturbing, and I found it somehow pleasant to watch; of course it's a bit to light-headed sometimes but there's nothing bad about it. And yes, I think it is witty sometimes (and mind you, I read the English authors, I have a doctorate in English literature!!!) For those who wish to watch something better Id recommend: Suddenly, last summer; Paragraph 175; Oranges are not the only fruit. GREAT SOUNDTRACK: ESPECIALLY David GRAY'S _PLEASE FORGIVE ME_.